Independence – too much of a good thing?

“”Independent” may be safe place to live, but it’s also lonely. Accepting love and support from others is essential to building real relationships. And building real relationships is essential to finding a fulfilling life. Needing others doesn’t make you weak. It makes you strong enough to be vulnerable in the pursuit of true love and happiness” (M.Abbott – Fruition)

I LOVE this! This was something I really used to struggle with. I was so proud of my independence and how I didn’t need anyone (heaven forbid I be mistaken for one of those “needy people”!)…. and consequently I had no one to support me during bad times, and no one to celebrate the good times with.

Human connection is invaluable, and irreplaceable, if we are to live and love wholeheartedly.

Ideally, we choose to have people in our life because we want them, rather than need them, but understand that at the basic level, humans need connection and community in order to grow and thrive.

Think about it – a baby will die without connection, affection, touch – as adults, we are no different. Without connection, our soul, our spirit, dies. We numb out and become depressed and anxious.

We all need the connection and belonging that comes from relationships. This connection can help us to learn, to grow and to move forward into who we need to be, who we are meant to be.

This journey is so much sweeter when we have loved ones around us to share it with, to keep us true to our word, and to celebrate the ordinary and extraordinary moments.

So let go, lean in, and allow yourself to be vulnerable.

You might just be surprised at the result

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