What If?

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If I invited you, for just one day, to let your body tell you what she wants and needs, and you just gave her that ~ no questions asked, no concept of right and wrong, no good or bad ~ would you be able to do that?

Whatever she wanted to eat, or drink, you gave her that, forgetting what you’ve been told is good or bad. However she wanted to move, you moved her in that way, whether it was in your current exercise plan or not. And if she didn’t want to move, you allowed her to rest. Whatever she wanted to do with her time, whoever she wanted to hang out with, you let her, not being constrained by what you think you ‘should’ do, or what you’d previously agreed to.

Does that feel exciting, fun and natural to you, or does that bring up a whole bunch of fear and doubt?

Do you fear that without restrictions, rules and boundaries, you would go crazy and out of control? That you’d binge on junk food and become a lazy-ass slob? That you’d derail all the hard-work you’ve been doing to lose weight and be healthy, and it’d be a slippery slope from which you’d never recover?

When did you learn to distrust your body so intensely? To feel that she is an enemy, who would sabotage you at every opportunity? What makes you think you know your body’s needs better than she does?

Maybe the problem is not that your body can’t be trusted.

Maybe the problem is in your lack of trust of her; the constant demands you place on her, the way you push her and force her and punish her. Maybe the problem is in the way you starve her of any pleasure, and joy, and fun.

How is that working out for you, by the way?

Have you felt happy, or comfortable in your body lately? Can you look at her, naked in the mirror, and honestly feel love, acceptance and gratitude for her? Or do you criticise and judge her, focusing on all the bits of her you want to change? Or do you just flat out refuse to look at her, naked, because you are so disgusted and disappointed by her?

What if, for just one day, you let her call the shots? And then what if you got up the next day and did the same? And again the next day? Would your world crumble and burn and you’d lose everything? Or would something beautiful be born?

Dare you to give it a go

Love

Brooke xox

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Oh No, What Have I Done?

I woke up yesterday with a little knot in the bottom of my belly, and one thought running through my head ~

 F**k, what have I done?

 You’ve been there right? You know that feeling ~ It comes on right after you make some sort of big statement, commit to something, or lock in something that’s a stretch for the person you are now.

In the past, this feeling, this thought, would stop me dead in my tracks, causing me to back pedal like a cartoon character. I’d do whatever I could to get myself out of whatever it was I’d recklessly committed myself to. Seriously, how could I have been so stupid to think that I’d be capable of that? You smoking crack girl??

I would be paralysed by the fear of being seen, of failing, of something unknown.

So I’d shrink, rushing straight back inside the safety of my comfort zone, where I could stay small, unseen, unchallenged.

Now I know this feeling is the exact feeling I want for my life.

This feeling lets me know that whatever I’ve committed to ~ whatever crazy idea I’ve come up with ~ is the thing that’s going to help me to grow. I feel this because it’s outside of my comfort zone ~ there are things I’m going to have to learn and implement to make this possible and I’m going to have to get to work to make it happen. I’m going to have to challenge things I previously believed. I’ll butt up against the myriad ways I limit myself, and I’ll have to find ways to release those shackles. I’ll have to do things that feel awkward for me. It’ll be a huge stretch for me, but if I weren’t capable of it, I wouldn’t have had the idea in the first place.

I first learned about this concept through one of my first coaches, and now dear friend, Peter Shaw. His life and business philosophy is “If it’s scary and exciting, do it”.

Why?

If something is just scary, there’s probably a great reason why you shouldn’t do that thing. It’s your intuition, the universe, or God, telling you Hey! Stay away! Your life is in danger in some way if you continue down this path.

If something is just exciting, by all means feel free to do it, but just know that it is inside your comfort zone. It’s easy for you, and therefore you don’t have to grow in order to do it.

However, when you come up with that beautiful blend of scary and exciting, you have found something that will take you closer to the person you want to become. Pursuing it will cause you to grow in ways you don’t even know are possible, and it will be the catalyst for great change in your life. It takes courage to adopt and live by the Scary and Exciting philosophy, but it is so worth it.

So now, rather than that feeling turning me around and shoving back inside my box, I allow it to motivate me and nudge me forward ~ into discomfort, learning and growth. Into freedom.

  • What are 3 things that are scary and exciting for you?
  • Which one will you commit to now, and see how it plays out?

Want to know what the decision was that prompted my latest Scary and Exciting feeling? Keep your eyes peeled next week for all the juicy goss. It’s so exciting. And so scary. And is going to be so fun. And I’m going to need your help to pull it off! And I wonder how many more times I can start another sentence with and. And I’m stopping now.

Is the scary of your scary and exciting just too big for you? Unsure of how to move with that fear? Get in touch, I love helping people move through fear to bring dreams into reality. Or contact Peter Shaw. He’s the king of Scary and Exciting. 

xx

We Need to Love the Most When We Feel We Deserve it the Least

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Recently I had a few frustrating and challenging weeks (if you’re into astrology, you can blame Mercury Retrograde. If you’re not, then it was just a shitty few weeks), and during that time, I noticed how much I wanted to hide because things weren’t going so great.

I had a phone date with my oldest friend who lives overseas at the moment. This woman knows me better than anyone, and loves me more than anyone, really loves the real me. We have been through the wringer together, and seen the best, and the worst of each other. I know there’s nothing I could say that would make her love me less. In fact, the more I show my flaws, the more she loves me.

Even so, I didn’t call her. I wanted to hide, even from her. I didn’t want to be seen. I didn’t want to be vulnerable, and it made me realise that even after all the work I’ve done, and all the work I do with you, my tribe, how fragile we can still be sometimes; how scary it is to be vulnerable, and how our natural tendency is to hide because we don’t feel good enough. We don’t feel worthy to be seen, or to be loved, and so we hide.

Hiding makes it worse. It adds to our isolation. In those times, when we feel less than, what we are looking for is the knowledge that we are ok, that we are enough. We want to be loved. We are looking for comfort, for understanding and yet we shut ourselves off from the very people, and the very situations, that could give us those things.

I wanted to share this with you because I‘m working on not hiding. I really want to live this life where I am raw and real and naked and vulnerable. At times I can do that, and it’s so beautiful, and at other times I’m this flawed human being who is just scared, who wants to hide; who wants someone to hold her, to love her and to tell her that it’ll be ok.

And I know that if this is me, if this is my experience, even with the knowledge and the tools and the support that I have, I know that you experience this to.

We need to love the most when we feel we deserve it the least ~ anon

Hiding is not loving, and I want to be able to love myself in every moment. I want to be seen in every moment.

I used to think that no-one knew me, the real me, and no-one understood me. I was right. They didn’t, because I didn’t let them. I hid anything that wasn’t perfect, for fear of being rejected. As a result, I felt isolated, misunderstood, and alone. I created the very thing I wanted to avoid, because I hid.

I know you do this too.

We need to love the most when we feel we deserve it the least ~ anon

Love is energy, and energy flows in and flows out. The more you give, the more you get. When you hold back, when you hide, you are cutting off that flow. The way to start it again? Give more; to yourself, to someone else. Start small, get back in the flow, and aim to stay in it. Aim to keep giving, so you can keep receiving.

If it’s scary to reach out ~ and I know it can be ~ show yourself a little love. Do something juicy, just for you ~ maybe a bath, a massage, buying yourself something special, taking yourself out for a delicious meal. Fill up your tank, then turn it outwards ~ start by sending a gratitude card to someone in your life, letting them know how much you love and appreciate them, and why. Buy someone flowers. 

A friend and coach of mine simply just says to his friends I just need you to tell me what you love about me or I just need you to hug me right now. I love this, no need for you to even say what’s bothering you, you can simply ask for what you need and allow others to give it to you. Give it a try and see what happens.

  • Where have you been hiding?
  • How can you love some more, even when you feel you aren’t worthy of it?
  • How can you allow yourself to be seen, just a little more than you are now?

Love

Brooke x

Are you ready to be seen in the most powerful way? Get in touch, I’d love to hold that space for you