Can You Be Happy Without Sex?


I picked up the Sunday magazine last week and as I glanced over the cover, one headline caught my eye – Can you be happy without sex? Sex usually catches my attention.

Right now, you’re either saying one of two things to yourself – Yes, I haven’t had sex in a while, and I’m happy or your response is a flat out No.

Those of you with the latter response, you may continue about your day. Go forth and orgasm deeply.

For the rest of you, sit down. We need to talk.

What’s the big deal with sex?

You can take it or leave it. You’re not that fussed by it. Maybe it’s been so long you can’t even really remember what it feels like. It’s nice and all, but you’re fine without it, right?

Except, you’re not. If you were honest, you’d see your life kinda sucks right now. You’re stale in your career or business. Paying off your debt, or getting that pay-rise is a constant yearning that is never fulfilled. Your optimal health and fitness is just out of reach, and your ideal weight? Forget about it.

Sexual energy is life force energy

Without your sexual juices flowing, everything else dries up too – creativity, inspiration, motivation, excitement and energy – dried up, shrunk down, left the building.

Sex is the ultimate pleasure. You came here through sex. The whole human race exists because of sex, and it cannot continue to exist without sex.

 And you think you’re fine without it?

Just to clarify, I am not saying that sex is the way to happiness, and that you have to carry on like a hormonal teenager to be happy. There may be times when you consciously choose to abstain from sex for a certain purpose, or to achieve a certain goal, and that can be beneficial. However, if you’ve just somehow found yourself in a rut, missing this vital piece, don’t kid yourself. Your life will be lacking in some way. You will not experience the fullness, the richness, and the deliciousness of what life has to offer you.

As a society, we are severely under-pleasured. Not just sexual pleasure, but any and all types of pleasure. You have been lead to believe pleasure is bad – pleasure will make you fat, pleasure will get you into trouble – and so you have restricted the amount of pleasure you feel in your everyday. But here’s the thing; you need more pleasure in your life, not less. Pleasure is not the enemy. Deprivation is. You are so under-pleasured, you turn to bingeing on chocolate, ice cream, wine, TV, rom-coms, (insert your vice here) just to feel something.

 You need to start experiencing more pleasure on a daily basis

And what better way than through a little hanky-panky.

Now, before you say That’s fine for you, but I don’t have anyone to get freaky with, stand yourself up, walk over to a mirror and take a peek. Say Hello. You are someone to get freaky with. Start on your pleasure hunt today. The more you are willing to give yourself the pleasure you are so starved for, the quicker you’ll call in someone else who wants to pleasure you, and the easier it’ll be for you to let them know exactly how they can pleasure you.

The more sex you have, the more sex you will have.

You didn’t come here for fine. You weren’t put here, in this body, at this time, on this planet, for fine. Do you know what the odds of you being born are? One in 400,000,000,000 (that’s 4 hundred trillion) Think about that for a second. One in 400,000,000,000.

 You did not come here for fine.

You came here to create something amazing; to experience joy, pleasure, ecstasy, connection and communion. Embark on your return to sex. Start your pleasure hunt today, and get those juices flowing in all areas of your life.

  • Where do feel dried up, stale, stagnant in your life?
  • How can you go about bringing more sex into your life?
  • Have you started having sex after a dry-spell, and noticed the flow on effects in other life areas?


Brooke x

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