The other day I heard my neighbour calling out to someone in her house. The person obviously didn’t her, and so without changing anything, she called out again, and again and again. Listening to this, I shook my head, thinking “Dude, she can’t hear you. There’s no point standing there, calling out to her when she clearly cannot hear you. Change something – maybe go see if you can find her, but just do something different from what you’re doing now!” You’ve had that same reaction, right?
It got me thinking about how we do this with weight loss.
We try one approach, and it doesn’t work, so we try the same approach again, just in a different package.
We try one diet, and it’s good initially but we can’t stick to it, so we gain the weight back and then go looking for the next diet…which works initially, but, again, we can’t stick to it, so we gain the weight back….and go looking for the next diet, and the next, and the next. And all this time, we think there’s something wrong with us, because we can’t make these work, when the reality is the strategy is wrong. Diet and exercise alone just simply don’t work for lasting weight loss – if that strategy were going to work, it would have worked already!
If you were in the scenario above, you wouldn’t think there’s something wrong with you, and then go into beating yourself up because someone couldn’t hear you calling out to them. You’d simply think to yourself “They can’t hear me” and you’d try a different strategy until you got the outcome you desired. Simple.
And yet we don’t do this with our weight loss.
True power and freedom in your weight loss will come when you ditch the strategies that don’t work, in favour of those that do. If you’re not where you want to be, what you’re doing isn’t working. Plain and simple. If you want to get where you want to go, you’ve got to do something different.
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I recently moved up to Queensland and have been busy settling in, making new friends and creating a new life for myself here, which involves surfing as much as possible!
I love it up here, and whilst it’s not been without it’s challenges (seriously, moving interstate, where I knew no-one or nothing about the area, 1 week before Christmas and right after a break up?? Not the easiest of transitions!!) it’s been a beautiful opportunity for me to practice everything I teach. A few years ago, this situation would have had me locked away, depressed, lonely and emotionally eating to numb out or absolutely smashing myself in the gym to avoid feeling my feelings.
Those feelings still showed up, and that old instinct to do those avoidance behaviours were triggered, but I was able to recognise them, show them some compassion and then set about taking care of myself in the ways I was really craving.
For me, this looked like getting out of the house and into nature, moving my body lovingly every day, surfing as much as possible, getting in the ocean every day, daily qi-gong and meditation, clearing my chakras and my energy field, joining Meetup groups in my area, going to their events and connecting with people I was drawn to, saying yes to any social invitations (and going!), being open and receptive to meeting people when I’m out and about, nourishing myself with awesome food and enough sleep, asking for introductions to friends of friends who live in the area, and reaching out and asking for support from loved ones around the country when I felt really challenged or helpless.
Let me be clear – this took work. It would have been so much easier to stay at home, binge watching TV and binge eating whatever I could get my hands on. But we know where that path ends, and it isn’t pretty.
I wanted a new life, and the only way that was going to happen was if I made it happen. No one was going to do it for me. There was never going to be a “right-time”. It was never going to be without effort. This was a huge growth opportunity for me, and I was going to have to stretch.
And you know what? Within 1 month, I have a awesome group of friends with similar interests and values, who are so much fun to be around, I’m dating and meeting gorgeous men, my surfing is getting better, AND I have 5 blocks of chocolate in my fridge, that I haven’t touched since before I moved up here (this still spins me out, as only a few years ago, if there was chocolate in the house, I was eating ALL of it. In one go)
With the right steps in place, and the willingness to stretch, you can turn around any challenging situation so that you are empowered, supported and in control, rather than powerless and numbing out with food. Now, I’m not saying it’s easy, because it does take consistent work, but it IS simple.
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We’re told it’s good for us. We’re told which exercise is the best for calorie burning, weight loss, building muscle…..you name it, there’s an exercise that’s best for it.
We’re told how often we should exercise, and for how long, and at what intensity.
And so, like good little girls that we are, we say “Ok, so if I want to lose weight, I have to exercise at these times, for this long, and doing this type of exercise”. We’re committed, we want that result, so we suck it up and get on with it.
We HATE that particular type of exercise, and that time of day doesn’t work for us, and today my body is tired and sore and doesn’t actually want to be smashed in an exercise session.
But we persist anyway.
There is another way, you know……
One of the BEST pieces of advice I’ve received around health and eating is to be a flexitarian – adopting this ideology has shifted so much for me, and completely transformed my relationship with food!
I used so be SUPER strict; following this diet, or that diet, and I hear this all the time from the women I work with – I’m paleo. I’m a raw foodie. I Zone. I’m vegan. I’m vegetarian. I don’t eat carbs. I don’t eat sugar.
There are so many different modalities available, and they all have their benefit, but what I see ALWAYS as the constant thread amongst all of these eating systems is that they ALL lead to binge eating in some form. Yes. ALL OF THEM.
When we rigidly adhere to any one ideal, we create stress in the body and the mind. We’re constantly telling ourselves “I can’t eat that. I’m not allowed to eat that” and this fuels our desire for that thing even more. We become obsessed, constantly consumed by thoughts of food and eating, until eventually we can’t take it anymore, we lose all control and the binge begins.
Another thing that happens when we strongly identify with one particular ideal; such as “I am vegan” or “I do paleo”, is that we become closed off and unable to see signs that our body is telling us about something we may be lacking, or something that may not be serving us.
If we’ve been strongly identified with being a vegan, we may miss our body’s cries for protein, and continue to lose muscle, not recover well from our exercise or get constantly sick.
If we call ourselves paleo eaters, we may miss the signs our body is struggling with higher quantities of fat and protein, or going without starches (such as if you are going to the bathroom, and your waste is super runny, smelly and it takes 3 flushes to clear the toilet bowl! This is NOT how it’s supposed to be people!!!)
Now, I’m not saying being vegan, or paleo, is bad; they both can provide incredible benefits BUT they may not be suitable for you, through various times and stages of your life.
Being a flexitarian means you follow what works for you in this moment, in this life stage, without rigidly identifying with that particular way of eating. It means being open to the messages your body is telling you every day, about what she needs, and responding accordingly. It means feeling in to what serves you best in the moment.
Feel like you need a vegetarian day, or week? Go for it. Feel like your body needs some meat? Fire up that barbie. Finding it hard to get in enough fuel, and your muscles aren’t recovering well? Cook up some rice and eat that with your meal. Feeling like you need something warm and substantial for breakfast in winter? Get yourself a big bowl of porridge and nourish yourself.
NONE of these make you a bad person. None will make you fat, ALL will nourish your body and give her what she needs to perform, and look, her best.
Life is meant to be enjoyed – FOOD is meant to be enjoyed. Release yourself from the shackles of rigidity around your food. Your body, and your soul will thank you for it. Promise.
I know you’re on your journey towards the best version of you; healthy, vibrant, energetic, happy, calm, loving, accepting.
You’re working your little tush off to get yourself to the place where you can finally love and accept yourself. Where you can be happy to look in the mirror, or see photos of yourself. That place where you are that fun loving, social, adventurous woman, who says yes to life, yes to dating, yes to sex, to opportunities, to explorations. That woman who is not held back in any way, not by her body, not by her mind, not by her fear or uncertainty.
This is SO important to you! You put in so much time, effort and energy, pushing yourself, being strict with yourself and reprimanding yourself when you slip up.
You restrict yourself, deprive yourself, punish yourself. You have to be hard on yourself or you’ll never get there. That’s how you have to do this, right?
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What can you change in your journey, starting today, so that it more closely resembles the destination you are aiming for?
I’m sure you’ve been there many times; you’re frustrated with your ability to lose weight and you want results NOW – well, actually, yesterday, but you’ll settle for now.
Then someone comes across your path – maybe you bump into them, or you see something pop up on the internet or Facebook, or you see it on TV. It’s someone who’s recently lost a tonne of weight by following some new plan or program, or by taking some new supplement, or shake. And it’s only taken them the tiniest amount of time to do it.
“That’s it!” you say, and you feel the excitement start to build. “That’s the thing that’s going to get me where I want to go. It’s going to finally help me shed this excess weight and give me the body I want!”
The possibilities are running through your mind – everything that you’ve been putting off, is now so close.
You can’t wait to get your hands on that plan or product and get into it. You whip out your wallet, purchase it online and wait impatiently for the day it is delivered into your anxious little hands.
Then, finally, it arrives, and you dive straight in, vowing to do it perfectly, and excited to start seeing your results. You don’t have to wait too long – things are starting to shift and you’re feeling really good – if it keeps going like this, you’ll be where you want to be in no time at all!
“Yes!” you think to yourself. “Finally! I’m so happy!”
But fast forward a few weeks or months, or even years, and you’re back where you started from, maybe even worse off. One more failure to add to your already sizeable collection
You know why too – it’s because you lack willpower, commitment and motivation….. Or is it?
Maybe there’s some other thing at play here. Maybe it’s not that there is something wrong with you…..