Are you someone who comes up with brilliant ideas, only to get stuck in the HOW, subsequently freaking out and giving up?
How will this work? How can I fit it in? How can I afford it? How can I make money off this?
Me too. Or, at least, I used to be. But I’ve learnt something along my way:
The HOW is none of your business.
Right now, at this moment in time, you can’t possibly know all the internal and external factors that will show up to support your vision. You can’t know the people you will meet, the opportunities you will be presented with, the information you will learn, the advancements in technologies that are coming (for instance, did you know there is now the technology to allow you to charge your phone, wirelessly? Yep. No chords, no power points and full battery charge. Incredible).
There are an infinite number of things going on out there that you have no idea about, and so, to try and plan every little detail is useless at best, and, at worst, extremely limiting.
When we get stuck in the HOW, we get overwhelmed. That idea that initially felt brilliant now seems too big, too risky and too uncertain. We don’t get the answers we want, we don’t get the reassurance and the guarantee we were looking for, and so we give up. We put aside our dreams and desires, and we go back to our ‘safe’ life. At least there we know how things play out (same old, same old).
In the words of Pretty Woman, “Big mistake. Huge”
Externally, life is uncertain. There are no guarantees. There is so much unknown.
So how do we hold onto our dreams in the face of this?
Your certainty comes from within. Your guarantee comes from yourself.
Firstly, get clear, and I mean, super-duper, crystal clear on what it is you want. Is this something you actually want, or something you’ve been told you should have/do? Are you willing to do what it takes to achieve this? What are you prepared to give up in order to have it?
Next, think about the type of person who gets to have, or do, this thing. What qualities, or traits, do they posses? Who are they?
Then it’s your job to show up, every day, being that person. Embodying those same qualities and character traits.
From here, take the first step towards getting what you want, and watch for the next step to appear (it always does). Repeat as often as necessary, and as you do, pay attention to the people, opportunities and situations that are placed in front of you. If they serve you and your vision, take them.
Let go and let God (whatever God means for you)
Let go of needing to know, of needing reassurance, of needing a guarantee.
Be who you need to be and surrender the process
When you are clear on where you are going and what you want, and when you consistently show up as someone who already has that same thing, the HOW is figured out for you. All you need to do is keep saying yes, and keep taking the next step.
- Where in your life are you currently feeling stuck in the HOW?
- When you think about the person who gets to have, or do, the thing you want, what are the top 3 qualities they possess?
- How can you embody these same three qualities in your life, starting right now
Leave a comment below and let me know. I love hearing from you!
With Love and Desire,
PS: I currently have 2 coaching spots available at my 2014 rates, but only until 15th March 2015. After which, all sessions will revert to my 2015 rates. If you are tired of living an edited life, and want to step up, play bigger and connect to what is truly important to you, whilst having a bucket load of fun in the process, get in touch. I’d love to speak to you.