We are so connected these days – connected through our smart phones, through the internet, through our LinkedIn, Facebook, Instagram and Twitter accounts – and yet, we still lack connection.
As humans, we long for connection. We realise we are connected, I mean, we are reachable 24/7, but what we don’t realise, is how much this disconnects us. It disconnects us from human interaction, from intimacy; from looking into someone’s eyes and feeling what it’s like to be in their presence, from sharing a little bit of ourselves and having that be seen, be received, and given back.
We desire this connection, yet we go through our day missing millions of little instances where we could so easily connect with the people we come into contact with, with the world around us.
How often do you run through your day, blinkers on, focused on what you have to do – because we’re all busy, right? We’ve all got a tonne of stuff to do, somewhere else we need to get to – so we rush from home to work, to the gym, back to work, out to dinner, back home. Our days are so jam-packed that we don’t spend any time, or we spend very little time, in the present moment.
When was the last time you actually looked your bus driver, or your barista, or the sales girl, or your receptionist, in the eyes, and stopped, literally stopped, what you were doing, and said hello? Connected with them? Asked them how their day is going?
Now, this doesn’t need to be a lengthy conversation, or a big, openhearted ‘deep and meaningful’ about your dreams and fears and whatever else is going on for you. But could you just take an extra 60, 120, 180 seconds, to actually connect with the person that’s in front of you; to recognise and acknowledge that the person in front of you is a person, a human being, a soul, on their journey, doing the best they can in this moment and yearning for connection as much as you are yearning for connection.
If you can take the time to honour all that within them, how much richer is your life experience?
Imagine doing that 5, 10, 20 times a day; just taking an extra minute or two to actually see the person that’s in front of you.
How do you think your day would feel then? How much more connected, and seen, would you feel?
For the rest of today, and this week, become aware of how many times in your day you don’t connect; how many times you’re too busy, too in your head and focused on where you’re going and what you’ve got to do next. Be aware of how much time you spend there (don’t worry if it’s the majority of your day – that’s the same for most people!) and then play around with slowing down, with connecting, with seeing whomever, or whatever is in front of you. Notice what’s different. Notice how you feel after taking that time, and then, look for even more ways to connect.
I would love to know how you go with this! In the comments below, let me know:
- How often in your day you disconnect, and get lost in your head, your thoughts, and your to-do list
- 3 specific situations that you can use today, to connect with someone in your life.
- And if you have taken that time to connect with someone, what did that feel like? What was different for you?
Have an amazing, connected week.