The 2 Things You Need To Know To Create a New Habit

You’ve heard before that it takes 21 days to create a new habit, right? Well, if you’ve ever stuck to something for 21 days only to have that new habit fall apart on you, this might explain why and help you stay on track for future goals.

Firstly, according to neuroscience  (which deals with the function of the nervous system and the brain), it takes anywhere between 66 and 365 days for a new pattern in your brain to become a network that runs automatically.

So, for that new pattern to become an unconscious habit (meaning, you don’t have to think about it, or put conscious effort into doing it. It’s just something you do automatically, like driving a car) it takes anywhere from 2.5 months to 1 whole year, not 21 days!

Think about how often you’ve gone to a course, read a book or listened to a podcast and gotten really inspired and motivated to make a change. And you do, but after a few days, or weeks, that initial enthusiasm has faded, reality kicks in, it feels “too hard”, or like it takes “too much time or effort”, and you let it slip for 1 day, then 2, then 3 and then it’s gone completely. You think it didn’t
work, when you just didn’t do it long enough to create the new habit.

Secondly, one of the most critical pieces in creating unconscious, or automated, habits and behaviours is repetition. We need to repeatedly do the thing we are wanting to install, over and over and over. This is how our new neural pathways get created and solidified, and it’s how we train our thoughts and emotions to align with what we are wanting to create. So when we do something 10 times, it’s nowhere near as powerful as doing it 100 times, or 365 times, and when we take a day off, it has a big impact. Consistency is key here – do the same thing every day. Build the repetition and that habit embeds deeper and more powerfully.

Know that whenever we take on a new habit or behaviour, there’s the initial enthusiasm and energy, followed by challenge and resistance. If, in these times of resistance, we remember that it takes between 66 and 365 days for that new habit to become fully automated, and that repetition is one of the most critical pieces, this can help us stay on track and continue to do what needs to be done today, so we can have what we want tomorrow.

Now go create some awesome new habits, and keep going until you get them locked down!

Why you haven’t gotten what you want yet

Have you ever wanted something so bad, you can taste it, you can see it, you can feeeeeeel it. You set about going about making it happen – you tell others, maybe make some enquiries, google a few things, take some action….. but for some reason, you just haven’t gotten what you want yet.

And it’s driving you crazy! You don’t understand, I mean, what else can you do? Why hasn’t it happened already? Why is it so hard for you? Why does it feel like you take 3 steps forward, and 5 steps back. Why does everyone else seem to have it so easy?

It’s enough to make you give it all up and go back to your not-so-fulfilling, same-old-same-old life BD (before your dream).

But, before you do that, promise me you’ll watch this video. PROMISE?? It’ll give some powerful insight into why this is happening, AND what you can do about it. Understand and follow these principles and I guarantee things will shift for you. Yep. Guarantee.

Click below to check it out. You promised 🙂

How Your Desires Become Reality

Are you someone who comes up with brilliant ideas, only to get stuck in the HOW, subsequently freaking out and giving up?

How will this work? How can I fit it in? How can I afford it? How can I make money off this?

Me too. Or, at least, I used to be. But I’ve learnt something along my way:

The HOW is none of your business.

Right now, at this moment in time, you can’t possibly know all the internal and external factors that will show up to support your vision. You can’t know the people you will meet, the opportunities you will be presented with, the information you will learn, the advancements in technologies that are coming (for instance, did you know there is now the technology to allow you to charge your phone, wirelessly? Yep. No chords, no power points and full battery charge. Incredible).

There are an infinite number of things going on out there that you have no idea about, and so, to try and plan every little detail is useless at best, and, at worst, extremely limiting.

When we get stuck in the HOW, we get overwhelmed. That idea that initially felt brilliant now seems too big, too risky and too uncertain. We don’t get the answers we want, we don’t get the reassurance and the guarantee we were looking for, and so we give up. We put aside our dreams and desires, and we go back to our ‘safe’ life. At least there we know how things play out (same old, same old).

In the words of Pretty Woman, “Big mistake. Huge”

Externally, life is uncertain. There are no guarantees. There is so much unknown.

So how do we hold onto our dreams in the face of this?

Your certainty comes from within. Your guarantee comes from yourself.

 Firstly, get clear, and I mean, super-duper, crystal clear on what it is you want. Is this something you actually want, or something you’ve been told you should have/do? Are you willing to do what it takes to achieve this? What are you prepared to give up in order to have it?

Next, think about the type of person who gets to have, or do, this thing. What qualities, or traits, do they posses? Who are they?

Then it’s your job to show up, every day, being that person. Embodying those same qualities and character traits.

From here, take the first step towards getting what you want, and watch for the next step to appear (it always does). Repeat as often as necessary, and as you do, pay attention to the people, opportunities and situations that are placed in front of you. If they serve you and your vision, take them.

 Let go and let God (whatever God means for you)

Let go of needing to know, of needing reassurance, of needing a guarantee.

Be who you need to be and surrender the process

When you are clear on where you are going and what you want, and when you consistently show up as someone who already has that same thing, the HOW is figured out for you. All you need to do is keep saying yes, and keep taking the next step.

Your turn;

  • Where in your life are you currently feeling stuck in the HOW?
  • When you think about the person who gets to have, or do, the thing you want, what are the top 3 qualities they possess?
  • How can you embody these same three qualities in your life, starting right now

Leave a comment below and let me know. I love hearing from you!

With Love and Desire,

Brooke xx

 

PS: I currently have 2 coaching spots available at my 2014 rates, but only until 15th March 2015. After which, all sessions will revert to my 2015 rates. If you are tired of living an edited life, and want to step up, play bigger and connect to what is truly important to you, whilst having a bucket load of fun in the process, get in touch. I’d love to speak to you.