How To Get Un-Stuck and Change Your Life

“Stuck” is one of the most powerless places to be, and yet there are some very simple things you can do, to get yourself “un-stuck” and start moving forward.

Check out the short video below to learn what you can do now, to get some momentum back in your life

Which Wolf Will You Feed?

There is a Cherokee story that tells:
One evening, an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside of people. He said “My son, there is a battle between two wolves inside us all. One is Evil. It is anger, jealousy, greed, resentment, inferiority, lies and ego. The other is Good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, humility, kindness, empathy and truth.”

The boy thought about it, and asked, “Grandfather, which one wins?”

The old man quietly replied, “The one you feed.”

It’s so easy to feed the evil wolf; to get stuck in our story about why things are the way they are, why we’ll never be good enough to have the things we want. It’s easy to point the finger and blame people and things, and to resent others for their success; to feel jealous of their good fortune. It’s easy to stay stuck in our anger, and our stories around all the ways we were hard done by. It’s easy to criticise ourselves; to put ourselves down, to tell ourselves why we don’t deserve the things we want, to be mean to ourselves.

It’s easy because we are taught from a young age to feed this wolf. We’re SO experienced at feeding this wolf, that it’s now a habit, it’s unconscious, we easily slip into these old ways and patterns of behaviour, and a lot of the time, we don’t even realise we’re doing it!

It’s easy to feed that wolf, but living that life is anything BUT easy. It’s hard – REALLY hard. We keep ourselves isolated and disconnected. We keep ourselves small, and give away our power. We play victim. We never get to have the things we want, or if we do, we never fully enjoy them. Resentment, powerlessness, anger, lies, greed, inferiority all create tension in the body which block the flow of our life force energy. Over time, this block creates injury, illness, disease, and weight gain.

It takes courage to come from love; to be grateful and appreciative for all that we have, to trust that everything will work out for us, to know that we too can change our life and create that which our hearts most desire. Forgiveness takes courage. Loving ourselves takes courage; treating ourselves with respect, being kind to ourselves, appreciating all the things our body does for us on a daily basis – are all hard to do when you live in a world that tells you you are not enough or worthy of any of that until you look a certain way. It takes strength and courage to feed this wolf, to live this life – Do you think it’s worth it?

The wolf you feed is the wolf who wins.

Why your quick fix will never work

I’m sure you’ve been there many times; you’re frustrated with your ability to lose weight and you want results NOW – well, actually, yesterday, but you’ll settle for now.

Then someone comes across your path – maybe you bump into them, or you see something pop up on the internet or Facebook, or you see it on TV. It’s someone who’s recently lost a tonne of weight by following some new plan or program, or by taking some new supplement, or shake. And it’s only taken them the tiniest amount of time to do it.

“That’s it!” you say, and you feel the excitement start to build. “That’s the thing that’s going to get me where I want to go. It’s going to finally help me shed this excess weight and give me the body I want!”

The possibilities are running through your mind – everything that you’ve been putting off, is now so close.

You can’t wait to get your hands on that plan or product and get into it. You whip out your wallet, purchase it online and wait impatiently for the day it is delivered into your anxious little hands.

Then, finally, it arrives, and you dive straight in, vowing to do it perfectly, and excited to start seeing your results. You don’t have to wait too long – things are starting to shift and you’re feeling really good – if it keeps going like this, you’ll be where you want to be in no time at all!

“Yes!” you think to yourself. “Finally! I’m so happy!”

But fast forward a few weeks or months, or even years, and you’re back where you started from, maybe even worse off. One more failure to add to your already sizeable collection

You know why too – it’s because you lack willpower, commitment and motivation….. Or is it?

Maybe there’s some other thing at play here. Maybe it’s not that there is something wrong with you…..

 

Love

Brooke x

The Health Practise That is Perfect For You

I used to be SO rigid when it came to health…..yeah, ok, everything…. and learning to let go of this rigidity has expanded my health, and my entire life, in many ways.

Practising curiosity allowed me to drop the arrogance that my mind knew what was best, and to start experimenting with how my choices affect my body, my energy and my vitality. In this way, the choices I make now (most of the time….it’s a journey:) are based on actual experience and personal truth, rather than what someone else has told me is ‘best’ for me.

If you want to know what is best for you, you want to incorporate the practises of curiosity and awareness. No one knows your body better than you do 🙂

 

Brooke xo

We Live In Moments

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Today I want to share an idea with you that my first coach taught me.

We live in moments

How often have you written off a whole entire day, week, month, or even year, because you’ve acted in some way that isn’t in alignment with where you want to be?

Maybe you ate something off your plan, and so you thought I’ll start again tomorrow, or on Monday.

Maybe you’ve been procrastinating on a project all morning, so you take the afternoon off work, and spend the whole time playing on Facebook, or catching up on personal admin.

Maybe you woke up in a bad mood, or something happened early in your day that put you in a bad mood, so you decide to let it ruin your whole day, and you proceed to be an absolute bitch, or negative nelly, to anyone and anything you come across. You waste your whole day, then go to bed, hoping that when you wake up tomorrow things will be different.

We’ve all been there. Me, more often than I’d like to admit.

We have this idea that our life is made up of hours, days, weeks, months or years, so when something happens we don’t like, we unconsciously decide that one thing has to affect us for that entire time period.

We’ve got it so wrong

We live in moments. Not hours. Not days. Not longer. Moments. Your life is made up of these tiny moments, one after the other, and they are what forms the shape of your hour, your day, your week, month and year. Your lifetime.

Understanding that you live in moments, gives you freedom and immense power. No matter what happens, in the very next moment, you can choose a different scenario. If this moment is shitty, change something, anything, so your next moment is better. Made a poor decision? No problem. Simply choose something different, right now. Acted in a way you aren’t proud of? Act differently in the next moment.

With immense power, comes immense responsibility

Knowing that you live in moments enables you to constantly improve your reality, but it all comes down to choice. It’s recognising you have the power to choose. It’s taking full responsibility for your experience. It’s deciding to not wallow in a poor decision, that either you made, or that was made for you. It’s deciding to always choose something better.

You can choose to allow one moment to dictate the next, and the next and the next. You can allow one moment to mean a shitty day, week, month or year. Or you can choose to turn that around. Right now. In this moment. 

We live in moments

What will you choose?

You Know What You Need

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So often, when faced with a challenging situation, we respond with I don’t know. Stop it! This is such a cop out, and is utterly untrue, in any situation.

 In every single moment, you know exactly what you need to move forward.

 When you I don’t know, you are hiding. You are avoiding what you know to be true. Acknowledging means you have to act, and acting means you have to get out of your comfort zone ~ maybe have an awkward conversation, maybe say no to something you previously said yes to, maybe you have to start over ~ and that scares you, so you hide.

 However, in your hiding, you sign yourself up for greater discomfort. You are saying Yes, I’m happy to sit here in limbo; to give up my power, my freedom of choice, and to hand control over to someone else. I’m happy to wait.

 When you say I don’t know you shut down your knowing. In effect, you are rejecting yourself; rejecting what you want, rejecting what you need and rejecting who you are.

You always know what you need, you’ve just forgotten how to listen.

 Throughout your life, you have had your knowing taught out of you. You were taught to distrust your feelings, and to place the utmost importance on what you think.

 Figure it out ~ Think about it ~ Make sense of this ~ Mull it over

 These all ask you to make sense of something; to logically understand and explain, and to do the right thing.

 Every second, you are bombarded with millions of different pieces of information. It’s overwhelming! How can you possibly make sense of all that information and figure out what’s right for you, when so much of what you hear conflicts with what you’ve heard before? My brain hurts even thinking about it!

 The problem is, what is right for you ~ what you need ~ doesn’t always make sense. In fact, it’s usually the opposite of what makes sense. There’s rarely anything logical about it.

 Rather than fighting ~ rather than needing to make sense ~ what if you could just go with it? What if you allowed yourself to know exactly what you need, and then acted on it?

 But Brooke! I truly don’t know what I need! I hear you, and I’m calling BS, and I want you to call it also. Stop hiding. You do know.

 Think about your options, or your situation, and pay attention to how you feel. Which outcome makes you feel expansive? Which shuts you down? What energises you? What drains you?

Don’t get caught in the details here. You don’t need to figure that out, you just need to know what you want. Let go of the How. (Need help with this? Read this)

 If you let yourself know, what would that look like?

 Own what you know to be true for you. Let go of the need for your choice to make sense, or to do the right thing by someone else. Don’t do what you should do, do what you want to do. Focus less on how your decision affects someone else, and ask; How does this affect me, and my life?

What is right for you is right for everyone else

…..even if they don’t see it yet and even if someone gets hurt in the process (obviously we’d love it if no-one was ever affected negatively by our choices, but in reality, that rarely happens. Treat everyone with love and respect, but don’t let others’ emotions affect your decision). Always be honest, first with yourself, and then by sharing that with those around you, even if it stings a little now. They’ll thank you in the long run.

 I don’t know is powerless. Stop it.

 You do know. Allow yourself to know. And then allow yourself to act.

 

  •  Where have you been I don’t know-ing yourself?
  • What have you been hiding from?
  • What are you going to do with that information now? 

Love

Brooke xx

 PS; Still stuck on this? Want help? Get in touch. This is one of my specialties, and I’d love to help you know.